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You can shine like stars in the universe.

"But I'll never get this project completed!"

"Those potholes are so huge – why doesn't someone fill them?"

"I'll never get these books read."

"I don't care for this music…. it's too loud/soft/fast/slow."

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The litany of complaints never ends.  It is a self-fulfilling prophecy that what you complain about with words but refuse to take action on will never be resolved.

Instead you stew, you vent, you get red-faced. And in the end you look like a clown: your face is discolored, your actions are animated (looks like you're juggling), and you might even shoot steam out of your ears.

Paul once wrote on the subject to the Christians in Philippi, "Do everything without complaining or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, children of God without fault in a crooked and depraved generation, in which you shine like stars in the universe as you hold out the word of life—in order that I may boast on the day of Christ that I did not run or labor for nothing." -Philippians 2:14-16 NIV

I have learned that merely complaining never fixes anything.  I used to be a big complainer – to waitstaff, to 800-number customer service reps, to my friends, to family, etc.

I learned that in all those wasted breaths I accomplished nothing – it was as Shakespeare wrote, "sound and fury, Signifying nothing."

Instead of complaining, I choose to make a difference.  So where I see injustice – I seek justice.  When I am confused I pray for clarity.  When I am lost I seek guidance.  When I see that something needs to get done – I do it.

Funny thing is – when you become a person of action – you feel healthier because you're doing something about the situation.  Others however, get jealous very quickly and say, "What's so special about him?"

The answer is – nothing special.  Except for being fed up with being the clown. You can do this – it's easy.  Instead of problems focus on solutions.

May you shine like stars in the universe as you hold out the word of life!


Asking the tough questions

facebookforpastorsAn increasing trend among my fellow pastors on facebook is the collaboration during message preparation.  Often I’m the one asking for help with a text or thoughts on an illustration.

This week a friend posted a need for info on the topic of the “uniqueness of Jesus” in the context of faith.  I offered my humble and probably insufficient words but as others add to it one has several thoughtful beginning points.

I wonder how many messages could be improved by use of other ideas, research, and viewpoints if we all took time each week to ask the tough questions?

I’ll be honest many times my in-depth study is frustrating as the more I study the more questions I have.  Sometimes Sunday creeps up and I’m still mid-struggle and up to my ears in research without a clear victor.

That’s why you’ll hear me offer options and sometimes say, “I don’t know” – because the simple fact is as I approach the interpretive task many times the questions are haunting.

However I don’t see the message as a mountain-top experience – it’s just another step on the journey, another opportunity for us to talk about what it looks like to try to describe the undescribable.

Sometimes in my life I’ve been afraid to ask the tough questions – it seemed easier to just bury my head in the sand and pretend they didn’t exist.  I’m sure I could have done much more good by authentically trying to answer those questions – even when the answers might never come.

Clive Staples Lewis once wrote, “We all want progress, but if you’re on the wrong road, progress means doing an about-turn and walking back to the right road; in that case, the man who turns back soonest is the most progressive.

Are you ready to ask the tough questions?  What if doing so meant “loosing” some things that you’d “bound”?


Ignoring your Sanballat


Let me start by saying today was an amazing day in our church services. We had so many commitment cards turned in that my inbox is overflowing.

I met a previously unchurched couple that said they were challenged by what I had to say, but that they’d like to hear more.

By the end of the late service I’ve been awake 6 hours, preached twice, and had so many mini-conversations my head is spinning.

Needless to say I was walking tall with a positive feeling that our team’s work, diligence, and prayer had been rewarded with the good morning.

It was quickly deflated by a couple of critics that haven’t yet caught the vision we’ve cast over the past two years of becoming an externally focused church.

Both issues were but minutiae when compared to reaching folks for the cause of Christ. Both issues fall into the “sin of preferences” category…’nuff said.

Unfortunately in spite of all God accomplished today, I walked away tonight feeling pretty bummed out. (my fault)

Then Seth Godin helped adjust my attitude with a good thought that jarred my memory of Nehemiah’s critic Sanballat.

In a nutshell: Nehemiah was in tears for Jerusalem and decided to do something bold about the problem (rebuild the wall). Because Sanballat feared he would lose personal power he ridiculed Nehemiah’s efforts. Nehemiah prevailed. God prevailed.

Back to Seth, he wrote in today’s post Ignore your critics-

  • Critics are never going to be happy with you.
  • You might bore them by bowing to their demands, but then
  • They’ll just go find someone else to criticize.

Solution: Ignore them. Ignore your fans too – because they have an aversion to change as well.

Pay attention to your “sneezers” – people who tell others.

Contextually it would be to ignore both critics and fans and instead focus your efforts on equipping those who are engaging others for Jesus Christ.

Listen to the doers of the Word, not the hearers only.


Shades of Murder


When it comes to capital crimes I’m not a big fan of sophistry. I understand differnet classifications exist when it comes to murder – what the mental state of the criminal is and what the surrounding conditions are (i.e. was it intentional, etc.).

However, one difficulty that I am having and would love someone who has a logical mind to explain to me is the scenario driven home by tonight’s report of a recent murder in Oklahoma City.

The sad story is that of a murdered girlfriend that was discovered by medical examiners to have been pregnant. The child inside of her died as a result of the mother being murdered. I find this disgusting and fully support the District Attorney in pursuing a double homicide charge.

If the state posits that purposely killing an unborn child is homicide, how can the state deny an abortion is a homicide? Where is the justice for the unborn children of this country?

Is the problem that 48 million murder cases might be a bit much to process? (Number of U.S. legalized abortion homicides since 1973’s Roe v. Wade.)


I wonder as I wander…

I have been teaching a message series on the unique characters surrounding the Nativity Story in December. It makes me think back to the type of character God has asked from each of us.

God has called us not to live in fear but be courageous, not to dwell in anger but flourish in forgiveness, not to bicker over disputable matters but to agree on the essentials and move on.

I’m not sure why some Christians like to argue and bicker over disputable matters. Or things that don’t make a whole lot of difference to Kingdom business.

I would love to hear believers rise up and argue with each other about how much we’re not doing to get the Gospel message out. Argue and debate about how best to reach this dying and lost world for Jesus Christ.

When’s the last time you heard a disagreement about how to best feed an clothe people? When will the church arise and get angry with itself for ignoring the global AIDS epidemic?

No, we chose to argue over colors of carpet, the style of music, and personality differences.

And by doing so, we choose to be insignificant.

You can choose a different path, put aside your personal issues and live for something greater than yourself. This Christmas season, open your heart, your mind to Jesus Christ.

I’d love to debate that with you!

Merry Christmas,

Pastor Clark